Adolescence is the time at which girls and boys begin to develop their autonomy as a process to reach maturity. What happens in many cases is that this need for independence collide with their parents. It joins that during puberty, teenagers are suffering a hormonal revolution that affects your mood and your character.
This is, in many cases, a stage in which the relationship with parents passes from the serenity that had during childhood to something very different.
And in the majority of cases, that relationship is filled with moments of rebellion, clashes and even fights. Many parents of teenagers live this time of their children’s lives with an excess of suffering. And also in a many cases, the family relationship develops in a series of pitched battles. That is not beneficial to anyone.
For parents, it is a disaster because his life becomes a hell and for boys and girls also is because they might lose a reference, that of their parents, which is essential to make ripened healthy. But even in the most difficult situations, it is possible to do something to bring back the situation. The determination to change things should start with the parents and they must be these that, finally and after are adults, who, with his performance, get that adolescents of their children is a more placid period. To do so they can implement a strategy based on six steps that will get that fights are much more uncommon or even non-existent.
What to do to avoid the fights
You do not alter, and never scream. If you are a parent of a teenager assert yourself as a rule not ever scream. It is a fact that when we begin to scream is much harder to control us and the lack of control is just the opposite of what you need with your teen. So the first recommendation is that always, even in the most difficult moments, you keep calm. Also think about what you want to learn your child, safe that you intend to become an eco-adult. To get it you must begin by show respect you to it. So the most important thing is that all your relationship is based on dialogue. But, you do not confuse you, that does not mean that you should not stay firm. Firmness is not shown with screams but with actions. And your teen needs your strength as a reference for its growth.
Have patience. Things with a teenager, as was the case with the children, do not get at a time. It takes dedication and patience to get results. Don’t forget it because you forget it can lead you to abandon the strategy and losing the progress made. And you should be aware that if you relax in your attempts to maintain a good relationship with your child or teenage daughter, he or she will feel lost or abandoned.
Don’t you pay your son your frustration. That is one of the most difficult accomplishments for parents, especially those of teenagers who are under greater pressure. But if you analyze your behavior may discover that many fights you have with your teenage son and that you’ve blamed him to coincide with moments in which you had problems: at work, with your partner… Be aware that quite often turn to the children our own frustration is the first step to begin to avoid him.
Remember that you want. You never forget that it is your son, which few years or even a few months ago, she turned to you in search of protection and love. Many parents say that it sometimes find it hard to recognize their children in these Moody and rabid adolescents. He thinks that they are still children and also much quieter youth who will be within very little time.
Keep a good ongoing communication. It is essential for the two that you try to maintain a good communication with your son or daughter. Look for the appropriate times and invest time.
You’ll see how you get results.
Remember the teenager that was you. Don’t forget that we also pass by that stage helps us keep the distance with what happens. It helps us to put our own teenage sons actions into perspective and give them the importance that really have that, in many cases, it is much smaller that that principle may seem. And in addition those memories can get to insert humor into the relationship, something that is always beneficial.